Written by: Vickie Sullivan | October 20, 2020
How to Answer a Loaded Question
Have you noticed that sometimes a question isn’t an opportunity for conversation but really an argument looking for a place to land? Yeah, me, too — especially social media posts during campaign season.
People will ask a loaded question for a variety of reasons. How you respond to it, though, demonstrates your thought leadership in action. My favorite approaches:
• Note both sides: Many folks want to suss out your opinion on controversial topics so they can label you accordingly. If possible, show how both sides can be right (or wrong). Then highlight the one thing that is the root of the different perspectives. This approach does two things: 1) It diffuses the need to argue, and 2) It shows you are above the fray. This is a great way to demonstrate discernment.
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• Don’t answer: Questions with inflammatory language are a big red flag, waving “please argue with me. I don’t have enough to do during the day.” Unless you’re bored, as well, don’t respond. It will be tempting to reply, though, as provocative verbiage is meant to illicit a response. But try not to reward bad behavior.
A loaded question can look innocent at first glance. But you can quickly regret answering when the comments and replies start flying. So, be careful to discern what deserves a response and what doesn’t.
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